This week's Listable Life is about regrets. I don't really like the word regret. I try very hard not to regret anything. But there are a few things, that if I could, I would go back and do differently. Most of them revolve around my wedding. And no, it wasn't the groom I picked.
Before I got further, let me set the record straight. I LOVED my wedding. I LOVED planning my wedding. I had the best time EVER at my wedding. I think I had the best wedding ever! (Doesn't every bride think that?) But, it all happened really fast. We got engaged and 6 months later we were married. For those of you who have planned a wedding or are planning a wedding, you know what I mean. 6 months is not a lot of time. And I would not have wanted to stretch the planning process out beyond a year. Or even a whole year. But those 6 months were stressful. There was a lot to do in a short period of time.
So I write this post, not for you to feel bad for me - and the last thing I want to do is upset anyone who worked hard at making our wedding the best wedding ever (so please don't be upset because I'm not kidding, it really was) - but so hopefully someone can learn from my mistakes. Because there were several things that were really important to me that I regret not happening, or happening. So learn something from my "whoops" moments, and then have your wedding be the best day ever. Because no matter what, it will be.
1). I regret being sick on my wedding day.
All of the stress, lack of sleep and huge, emotional life changing-ness of the day hit me while getting ready. And so did my vertigo. I never took the time to let the fact that I was getting married really sink in. There was just too much to get done. And it all hit me on my wedding day. It took me forever to get ready, we were running behind, and that just stressed me out even more. I lucked out (mainly because my cousins and bridesmaids were awesome and moved mountains to make me feel better), and finally started to feel better, but it took awhile. It would have sucked to miss my reception, because let me tell you. It was a freakin BLAST!!!! (See, I'm not joking. A BLAST!!!)
My advice: Take the time to let everything sink in, BEFORE your wedding day. And for the love of god, GET SOME SLEEP!
2). There were a few pictures we forgot to take.
Because I was stressed and we were running behind, I completely forgot about some pictures that were really important to me. There is a picture from my grandmother's wedding. She is on the stairs with her bridesmaids, and I really wanted to re-create that picture. And I completely forgot about it. I was so stressed out, I stopped caring about what was going on. Good attitude at the time, bad in hind site. We also missed a few pictures with important people. When things get going, it is just really tough to do/remember it all.
(And by the way, most of you have probably seen my wedding pictures at this point and you know they are to die for!!!!! So I can't be too upset! And if you haven't, check them out)
My advice: make a list of your absolute must have's/do's for the day and put someone else in charge. Then you don't have to think about it, and you won't miss anything.
3). My Aunt Judy didn't get to go wedding dress shopping with me and my Mom.
Growing up, I was the only girl on my Dad's side of the family. Which was great. I got to cry if my cousins picked on me too much, and I got to be the tag-a-long. But the best part about being the only girl, I got to spend a lot of time with my Aunt Judy. She is my second mom, she did a reading at our wedding and she is one of my best friends. For years, when I thought about wedding dress shopping, it was going to be me, my mom and Aunt Judy. Unfortunately, because of our wedding time crunch, I had to go shopping and pick a dress without her. It still makes me sad to think about.
(Aunt Judy is also the hot blonde in the gold dress, in the picture above. And she is going to kill me for posting pictures of her, I'm sure! This one is from my "Auntie's Luncheon" the Thursday before our wedding)
My advice: If you can, make the special moments happen. There was no way for me to change this one. I am really glad that I got to get my wedding dress in Miami, but we did miss her while my mom and I were shopping.
4). I didn't get a "mother-daughter" moment the day of my wedding.
As many of you know, the day-of is total chaos! And our wedding was no different. There were so many people around, it was nuts! And they were all there because they loved us and we loved them, and I wouldn't change it for a million dollars. But because of all of the chaos, my mom and I didn't get much time together, which was tough because my Mom is my rock. She worked so hard and was working so hard that day to make my wedding special. So we didn't get to have that "oh my gosh I'm getting married!" moment. She helped me get into my dress quickly, and off I went because we were WAY behind schedule! But, at least we have some pretty pictures together! (By the way, thanks Mom for everything!!!)
My advice: Take a second to enjoy the day with your mom (and dad for that matter). It's your wedding day, and it is over in a flash! Those moments are the ones you will remember.
5). I wish we had given Buoy a shorter hair cut and taken more pictures with him.
In hindsight, man was that dog shaaaaggy!!! I was so afraid of him getting cut too short or getting a bad hair cut, that his hair ended up being too long. <sigh> Oh well. He is still a pretty cute fluff ball. And let's be honest, in my mind, there is no such thing as enough pictures with our Buoy dog. We could have had a million, and it wouldn't have been enough. Look at that face.
My advice: Get him/her groomed a month before hand and have a clean up done right before the wedding. It gives you plenty of time for a bad hair cut to grow out, without him/her being shaggy.
I'm sorry. I kind of feel like this was a depressing post and it wasn't meant to be. Seriously, my wedding was AWESOME!!!! I want to do it all over again, in part to fix a few little things, but mostly because it was SO MUCH FUN and it went by way too fast!!!!! I want to go back and savor each and every moment.
So that is my last piece of advice: Don't have any regrets about your wedding day. Just have a blast and enjoy every second! Because, I know I sure did!